- Don’t mention the fact that they are a female who is reading a comic. It’s…it’s really just ignorance to point out someone’s gender on either side.
- Try to read body language, signals, and expression. If she’s talking to one of her friends that has nothing to do with you—-let them talk. Make sure there’s a door open to conversation before you kick down the door and make yourself look like just another mouthbreather. Use the Schrodinger’s Creeper rule: The less you respect her, her space, her signals and her wishes, the more creepy you’ll be, because if you don’t respect her in small things, why would you stop other times when she says ‘No?’ Your goal is to be as charming, respectful, kind, and aware as possible.
- If she looks like she has absolutely no intention of talking to you, and doesn’t notice you—-keep doing your thing and leave her be. The world doesn’t bank on you talking to this one attractive girl.
- A lot of people in the comic world are extremely shy. Making them feel uncomfortable in an error in your thought or speech can feel like something little to you, but something large to them.
- Know when to back off. If you make a mistake and they really blatantly don’t want to talk to you, it’s best just to be kind and back down, not saying much of anything else unless they initiate another conversation with you. I don’t know how many times a day I see someone taking a girl beginning a conversation with someone else as a personal invitation. The women often become annoyed and leave without purchasing anything, which usually pisses off the store owner.
- Don’t press for contact information if you feel like it didn’t go so well. It can be a little awkward if they give you their number and you didn’t get a text or call back, so save yourself the trouble and move on with your day.
- Be patient with yourself. I know it’s frustrating to do this kind of thing without having that great of self esteem or if you feel unnattractive, but the more you sort of move up in your practice with social activities, the more you’ll find your strengths and grow happy with them.
- Sometimes personalities clash. Remember that if the female in turn disrespects you when you’ve done nothing wrong—-just back off and don’t say anything rude or feel bad about it. People in general can be like that regardless of what you do.
- DON’T use the Edward Cullen way of things: Trying to be really verbose without it being natural conversation. Be yourself, because starting a conversation on what might seem to be a tiny fib can turn into a relationship based on a lie if you keep going.
- Try to make them as comfortable as possible, even if that means leaving. Things can go bad fast if you’re invading their space just by existing. Sometimes, personalities like that can be more volatile anyway.
- If you hit and miss more than like eight times in a day, that means you’re either seeking it out or that’s a helluva coincidence. You shouldn’t be seeking women out, or lying in wait somewhere. That’s verging on inappropriate. Let things happen in passing. For Example, imagine walking into your favorite comic book store and there’s a woman you find attractive in there—-rather than you waiting in the back of the store holding the newest copy of Hellblazer and staring. It’s not right to try and force things into fruition.
- Don’t get discouraged! Just because you maybe screwed up or they’re not in the mood to talk doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. There are plenty more comic enthusiast females nowadays then there used to be—-and maybe one of them will be for you.
I love this. I used to go to a comic book store back in my home town that I considered “mine” and would get extremely annoyed a guy would come up and just ramble on and on when there was obviously not even a spark. I go to comic book stores because I love that world. And I do enjoy talking to other people in there. Just not when you can obviously tell that a guy is trying to make things happen and you’re trying to make it just as obvious that you’re not interested.
My best advice to anyone is to just be themselves in there. Don’t try to peacock. If you can tell the girl is NOT INTERESTED, back off. She’s not going to becoming interested as she’s planning her exit strategy.
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